My mother was a beautiful, strong, independent woman. She co-owned a business with my father, ran our household and worked with our church. When I was 10 years old, my mother got very sick. It took almost a year for doctors to figure out what was wrong was an incurable lung disease. She passed away at the end of March, shortly after my 12th birthday.
There are many things I learned and inherited from my mother; her strong work ethic, her curiosity and love of animals and nature, and her fierce independence. Many times, after becoming a mother myself, I have wished she was here to help and support me, give me advice and I have no doubt, she’d let me know when she felt I was royally screwing up!
Some years, I have donated to charities in her name for Mother’s Day. Ones I thought she would herself would have endorsed; World Wildlife Federation, Children’s Hospitals, etc.
But I also think one of the greatest ways we can honor our mothers is just by being the best parent we can be for our own children.
This year, writing this blog along with all the incredible connections I’ve made with so many of you has helped me on my present path of motherhood with all my doubts, struggles, frustrations, joys and realizations. Many have said this and I completely agree; I never expected when I started this blog that I would feel this kind of connection and friendship with people I’ve never met in person or to learn so much from them – and myself.
I feel better for it in many ways.
- When I’ve been frustrated, overwhelmed and felt like a failure, beaten by a small toddler, I’ve looked out and you’ve shown me I’m not alone, we’re all struggling and it’s ok:
Getting Spanked by Jennifer at Kvetch Mom
Listen up Spouses! Don’t be Late! by Tracy at Scribblesaurus
- When I’ve been exhausted and overwhelmed and then felt guilt because I only have one child so what am I complaining about anyway – you’ve understood:
Your Hard Is Hard by Heather at Extraordinary-Ordinary
- When I’ve been lonely and felt awkward and weird about making friends, you got that too:
Park Etiquette and Picking Up Mom Friends by Morgan at the818
- I’ve been inspired by your constant insights:
- How dedicated you are to protecting your children and guiding in a fair way:
- By your strength and dedication to your families:
What Can I Say? by Jennifer at Just Jennifer
- How you are able to see and capture the beauty all around us so easily and perfectly:
Scavenger Hunt by Stasha at North West Mommy
- How you are willing to share so much of yourself; the good, the bad and sometimes, the just plain hilarious:
I Eff’d Up My 15 Seconds by Ado at The Momalog
- How you are brave enough to be your true, real self even when the things seems uncertain:
I Have An Announcement To Make by Leslie at The Bearded Iris
- Encouraging all of us to love ourselves, just the way we are:
Does anyone else feel bad for Jessica Simpson right now? by Aubrey at Way Too Much Aubrey
- And reminding us to celebrate and honor great women making a difference:
Wednesday’s Woman by Kim at Sperk*
These are just a few examples of why I love you, there are far too many I love to post.
You mothers are something else. Wise, caring, creative, talented, honest and amazing. This year, I am celebrating all of you and all of me too.
Thank you for sharing so much with the world and for coming by and reading about my padawan life as well.