Image source – Pinterest
Image Source – Pinterest
Image Source – Pinterest
Image Source – Pinterest
Just wanted to share a few of my recent favorite pins!
What’s been inspiring you lately?
I was flipping through a magazine while waiting in line at the grocery store the other day and saw yet another article on women and “having it all”. Nope, I didn’t read it. Because I can’t stand this debate or any more of these articles.
My issue is, isn’t “having it all” a completely personal and individual thing? Don’t we all have our own goals and ideals? And even just different things in life that make us happy? What might be a dream situation to me could make someone else completely miserable and vice versa.
The other thing is, I feel like some of these articles can add to setting yet another impossible standard and making women feel like they are not doing enough, achieving enough, being enough, etc.
Is there something always lacking?
I don’t know about that but I do believe the picture of perfect portrayed a lot of times is bullshit.
Please allow me to apologize and/or warn you in advance, I try to keep things on a very positive vibe on this blog and will continue to in the future but in all honesty, I’ve been going through a lot the past couple of months and well, things just aren’t good. I’ve stayed away but miss writing and at the same time, want to keep the honesty and authenticity I started off with.
I love being a Pisces but being so sensitive of nature also means the hurts run deep and you seem to feel things so strongly it’s almost too much at times. I don’t think I’d ever change it, but – wow sometimes. If you’re not familiar with the sign, this description is very fitting:
Pisces is the twelfth sign of the zodiac, and it is also the final sign in the zodiacal cycle. Hence, this sign brings together many of the characteristics of the eleven signs that have come before it. Pisces, however, are happiest keeping many of these qualities under wraps. These folks are selfless, spiritual and very focused on their inner journey. They also place great weight on what they are feeling. Yes, feelings define Pisces, and it’s not uncommon for them to feel their own burdens (and joys) as well as those of others. The intuition of the Pisces-born is highly evolved. Many people associate Pisces with dreams and secrets, and it’s a fair association, since those born under this sign feel comfortable in an illusory world. – Astrology.com
The following post is what I’m feeling. Much more positivity to come friends but right now, this is just where I’m at.
The other night, I caught a headline about a model who gave an interesting Ted Talk on beauty and the modeling industry. Of course I was curious and had to watch it. If you have not yet, here you go!
While it’s not my favorite Ted Talk, I really appreciated a lot of what Cameron Russell had to say and especially, the pictures she shared of the way she looks in real life next to her modeling pictures.
So much of what we see is illusion, so much of what we are told is untrue, stated as fact to sell a product or trigger a reaction.
You need this new product so people will think you’re pretty and popular because if you’re pretty and popular you will be happy and never have any problems and will always feel loved and adored.
Sadly, a lot of these lies and illusions have been seemly integrated in to our society and subconscious as a reality and truth.
And in my opinion, they do nothing but cause pain and break us down. They can even deny us the peace, happiness and contentment that is our natural state and right.
Image source – Lovingfilm.com
Welcome to my first Wednesday’s Woman for 2013!
Some months, it’s a challenge to think of a good subject for my Wednesday’s Woman contribution and even more difficult to write a piece I think that adequately describes them and their accomplishments.
This week’s was more personal and as a result, a little easier to write. In fact, I’ve written about the Loving family once before on my blog (a post called Thankful) so I was grateful for the opportunity to revisit looking deeper in to what Mildred Loving experienced and how her life may have felt.
Although painful and infuriating, Mildred and Richard Lovings story too important not to tell and tell again.
In case you are not familiar with this couple, Mildred, a woman who was part black, part Cherokee, fell in love with her childhood sweetheart, a white construction worker named Richard Loving. Richard felt the same and was ready to settle down but there was a problem. Mildred and Richard were from Virginia, a state where interracial marriage was against the law in the 1950s.
Every month, I look forward to the next issue of Yoga Journal set to arrive in my mailbox. Besides all the great information on poses and general health and wellness, there is always something unexpected that touches or inspires me in some great way.
A few days ago, the February 2013 issue arrived. Flipping through, I landed on a page with the following quote and sat, re-reading it several times.
“Take up one idea. Make that idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, and every part of your body be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.”
– Swami Vivekananda (1863-1902)
It made me think of how many times, I’ve gotten too tangled up with worries of:
I want this but how am I going to be able to do it?
How will I ever have enough time, money, etc?
Truthfully, letting my own fears and insecurities take over and slowly losing sight of a dream or goal, ending with feeling hopeless and depressed.
I know for most, spring is the time when people go through their homes, closets and garages to do the big, all day, clean out sessions but for me, it’s always after the holidays.
I don’t know how others feel about this but the sudden onslaught of new toys, puzzles, games, clothes, movies, etc. makes me want to re-evaluate, re-organize and clean things out.
Cleaning and organizing is actually one of my super powers though, I actually enjoy organizing my closet (I know). Too much clutter, mountains of things just piled up or shoved together makes me twitchy and I can’t take it.
I need wide open spaces, lots of room to move and breathe and just think.
Cleaning has even becomes a calming exercise. I’ve been known to pick a part of the house and scrub it down during stressful or worried times, for the busyness of my hands and clearing of mind the motion provides me.
Image Source – healthycrush.com
Once a month, I have the honor of featuring a woman I find inspiring and amazing for someone just as inspirational and inspiring to me – Kim at Sperk*!
Kim has dedicated Wednesday on her blog to women who are positive role models for the world. According to her site:
What makes a Wednesday’s Woman?
Courage, honesty, authenticity, and humility–any characteristic that speaks to the power of what can happen when we are in touch with our own humanity.
Seane Corn was an immediate and easy pick for me. She is a well known yoga instructor and passionate activist on a mission to bring the principals of yoga – love, compassion and mindfulness, into every part of our lives and the world around us.
Is it harder to not know what you want in life or to know but have your goals seem far out of reach?
I’ve been on both sides of this question as most probably have and I don’t know if there is one, simple answer. The answer is probably different for each one of us. What feels worse to me may not be so terrible for you.
Both situations can be difficult, both are uncomfortable and sometimes scary and frustrating as well. Both can make us feel hopeless or sad, confused and grasping.
But both situations can also require the same difficult but simple thing – letting go.
After being disillusioned with previous paths but unsure of what do to next, I finally have an idea of what I’d like to learn, pursue and hopefully be really successful at.
I can picture myself in this new role and what my life might look like but I have no idea how I’m going to be able to make this happen.
It’s another question I have no answer for right now. I just have to be patient. For right now, I have to let go.
Being able to stop or let go in the midst of internal unrest, chaos or turmoil can be the hardest thing to do. Shouldn’t I press on? Keep thinking and pushing myself until I figure everything out? Isn’t stopping or taking a break an excuse to be lazy or escapist?
But how well will I be able to think and figure things out and more importantly, feel my way in the right direction if I’m stretched to the limit, confused, stressed and upset?
The letting go I’m talking about isn’t running away, it’s stepping back to give yourself some space and breath.
The kind of stopping I’m envisioning isn’t giving up, it’s allowing for the rest and meditative break that allows for wisdom within to come through and possibilities to be revealed.
And realizing that not immediately knowing just what to do is a part of our human experience. It’s life, it’s ok to not know. We are here to learn.
Talking with my husband one morning, I posed this same question to him. I never know what he will say but I know it’ll be honest to a fault and am always interested in his insight.
His answer – “I think you have to just decide what you want and then watch it unfold.”
No grasping, forcing, worrying, fighting, stressing or judgements.
So for now, I’m releasing my intentions and wishes to the universe. I’ll do what I can on my end to follow the direction of my goals and with patience, I will watch the path unfold.
Letting go seems to be the theme of life for me at the moment. It was also the topic for my post this month for DoYouYoga.com: Learning to Surrender – 4 Ways to Find The Beauty In Letting Go. Please stop by, check it out and let me know what you think!
Image from askmissa.com
Each month, I choose a woman to celebrate for the wonderful Kim at Sperk* and her Wednesday’s Woman post. Honoring inspirational women, spotlighting their good works and spreading the word has been fun, educational and inspirational to me as well.
This month, I’m writing about a wife and mother who has extended her concern for the health and wellness of her own family to all of our families and children.
Today’s Wednesday’s Woman is Michelle Obama.
From writing her book, American Grown: The Story of the White House Kitchen Garden and Gardens Across America to creating Let’s Move, a program and web site designed to educate and empower parents, schools and even community leaders to help provide healthier food choices and opportunities for play and exercise for today’s children – Michelle Obama has made the fight against childhood obesity and raising a healthier, happier generation a national priority.