Kindness

Kindness is powerful and priceless. It costs absolutely nothing to be kind and it can change – everything.

Kindness isn’t easy.

How kindness can ever be viewed as a weakness is something I’ve never understood. It takes so much more strength, self-control, respect and dignity to live in a way where we strive to show kindness to ourselves and others. Especially when we feel hurt or wronged by someone, whether they meant to or not.

It takes bravery to be kind.

Isn’t it much easier and let’s be honest, more satisfying, to just react, yell or have a melt down? In some cases, it even feels safer. If I’m kind to you, and you hurt me, I’ve made myself vulnerable and paid the price. Or I might be seen as a push over and continued to be disrespected. And then it’s like I’ve hurt myself.

But, could it be, that the outbursts, rudeness, crabby, bad attitudes and mean words from others aren’t always about us? In some cases, isn’t it possible they don’t even have anything to do with us? That it might be a symptom of something they are going through, some unhappiness or struggle or maybe, maybe they’re caught in the same fears of not wanting to be vulnerable or judged as weak for being kind?

The strongest among us are kind.

I’ve never met a truly kind person and thought anything bad about them for it. I’m attracted to their light, I see how happy and calm they seem and I admire and respect it. I recognize their strength and I honestly appreciate the kindness.

I know I am observing greatness.

How do we change our perceptions and fears around kindness? How can we help shine more of a light on how precious and needed it is?

Because it matters, the way we talk to each other, the way we interact every day, with strangers, co-workers, friends and loved ones. It all matters.

4 Lessons Learned From the 30 Day Yoga Challenge

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Woohoo – I did it and that rocked!

Waking up on Sunday morning and realizing it was day 30, the final day of the yoga challenge was a mix of surprise, joy and a little pride as well.

I really wasn’t sure about doing this and even more unsure that I would be able to stick with it. Now I can honestly say, it was one of the best things I’ve done and am SO glad I decided to commit and give it a try.

I have had a home practice for over a year now but I had never practiced daily before. As the weeks went on, I started to see real changes in myself, my thoughts, how I dealt with daily life and how much more peaceful and relaxed I felt overall.

Here are a few of things I learned along the way.
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Opening Your Heart

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This month, my post for DoYouYoga is about one of my favorite terminologies used in yoga for lifting your front body and depending on the pose, rotating forward: open your heart.

I wrote about how moving through poses like cobra, up dog and triangle pose with the intention to open and lift your heart not only assists with understanding the physical alignment of the poses but takes us to a deeper place of intention.

Just as being hunched over or feeling closed off is going to make it much more difficult to get fully in to many yoga asanas, feeling this way often has the same effect on us in our daily life. Things seem harder, heaver and far more serious than they sometimes are or need to be.

What I didn’t write about was how difficult this can be, especially off the mat.
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Meditation – Learning to Sit

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This is a kind of part II of my post on the benefits of meditation. You can read it by clicking here: Meditation – Making Time For the Present Moment.

Meditation is a practice of “not doing”, it’s asking ourselves to stop – everything, like a mental time out. It is a practice of stillness of the mind and body.

This is one of the reasons I think that for most of us, meditation seems so difficult, weird or out there.

Because we live in a culture where busyness is valued.
Being busy all the time means we are important.
It means we are doing great things, we are popular, we are valued.
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Meditation – Making Time For The Present Moment

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Quiet Mind and Open Heart

Meditation is something I’ve been trying to make more a part of my life for some time now. I’ll be honest, I have not been the best about setting aside time on a regular basis to keep up a consistent practice but when I think of all the benefits, I have to admit it’s worth it to start looking at ways to make the time.

Much like yoga, learning to meditate has caused me to make big shifts in what I’m used to doing. Because the thing is, it’s all about not doing and that in itself can be difficult to grasp.

Here’s why stopping or not doing, is a good thing:

Every day, from the moment we open our eyes in the morning, our mind is going at full steam. We are often caught up in the past, making plans for the future, worrying, wondering, but rarely is our mind still and rarely are we 100% fully in the moment.
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What Really Matters

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When I first read about Kristen Stewart’s affair with her married, “Snow White and the Huntsman” director, several thoughts went through my mind.

How stupid can they be?

What? His wife is a model!

Why is this so common?

Because as we all know, Hollywood affairs seem to happen all the time. It’s hardly news anymore. In fact, a famous couple still going strong after several years – now that’s news.
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